One month into 2019… How are you faring with your New Year’s resolutions?
To those of you who are sticking to them…well done. To those of you that are about to or have already abandoned them, perhaps it’s time to take a step back and ask yourself WHY is this happening?
At a very basic level, we strive to be happy. That’s why, every January, we meticulously make a list of things we want to change in our lives for that year. The question is: How do we compile that list and why? Do we include things we can chastise ourselves for if we do not achieve them or do we include things that, when achieved, will make us happier in ourselves?
The correct way to make a list of New Year’s resolutions is to look back on the year just past and see what you need to change and why, and do this in a very simplistic, enjoyable and structured way…using the Wheel of Life.
The Wheel of Life is a great tool for answering many questions. It’s the best and only way to assess different elements of your life over a year. As you can see there are various headings: Relationships, Career, Finance, Family, Personal Development, Health and Fitness, etc…but you can add or substitute one at the headings with an issue that is particularly applicable to you.
Here’s how it works…
Draw your own Wheel of Life for 2018. Look at each heading and give yourself a score between 1 and 10 linked to the degree of happiness that this part of your life brought to you last year. Now mark your score on the wheel and draw a line connecting all the score points together. A high score means that you are doing well in that section of your life, whereas a low score indicates areas of your life that require more attention.
Very often when we make New Year’s resolutions, we focus on the areas of our life that already get our greatest attention and probably have been repetitively on our New Year’s list for years. Too often we totally ignore the sections of our life where we scored ourselves poorly. It is in these sections that we can achieve the greatest return for our efforts. The critical thing to note is that, very often, the areas where we performed poorly have implications far beyond our realisation for success in all areas of our lives.
Now, based on what your Wheel of Life is telling you, make a new resolution list but focus on the areas of your life in which you scored badly. By identifying plans and actions to enhance these parts of your life, you’re setting goals that will make you happier and more content in yourself and, more importantly, you will be making life happier for those around us.
Good luck with the new list and if you would like some help in understanding the Wheel of Life, please do not hesitate to contact Cregg Coaching.